wife says... dogs go or i go:(

I see it like this(went through all this with my X) If she will leave over that she is not happy and was looking for an excuse to leave anyhow. Yea its not worth losing your wife and kids over but you will never lose your kids. They might not live with you but you will get them some. I tried to make everything work with my x just for my boy but now i have been remarried
he seems to be so much happier and loves his stepmom more than his own mother. NO JOKE.
Just my input. You do what your heart tells you not what everyone else because in the end when all said and done its you living that life. Good luck.