lack of respect

I have three children and they are all completely different and must be treated different. I would give full permission to paddle my oldest and just let me know what he did. My second son I would want to be contacted before he was paddled. My daughter I would not let get paddled.

What I think is funny is that people with no children or one child have all the answers. Two think they have a good understanding. Three and they know that they don't know. Parents with four or more children never give parenting advice just encouragement. Why? Because they know that every child is different. There is not one way that will work on every child from the same family so the parents have to figure it out. They also know that parenting is very stressful.

But dodgegirl remember it takes a village to raise a child. That means you are going to need help. There is no way you can do all the discapline. My aunt tried it and it lasted until the third child. To be honest she just looked crazy.

At church there are two boys. They were so bad people did not want them to come to church. Their poor mother was doing her best but was at her wits end dealing with them. So I tried talking to them but they would not listen. The one day they hit several kids. I knew they had been fussed at so many times already. So when they hit my son and a few others. I stopped them. With my two bad knees I got down and looked them in the eyes and said "did you know that I want to hit people too? I want to hit poeple most of the time." You should have seen their faces. Nobody had every just said they understood. Maybe because most people don't want to hit people. But then I talked about why I don't hit people. Then I just listened to them. After that when they were out of control I would get called. Now I would like to say that I could always calm them down but I always had time for them. When others could not understand why I would work with them and ignore the other kids I just kept on. I was able to talk to the mom and explain why her boys acted like they did. If the mother had handled all the discapline and not let someone else help they would still be out of control. The mom was and is a great mom. I only helped her understand her sons because I listened and then I could explain to the mom what the boys could not. Now when I see them they are always where they should be and behaving. That is because of their mom. When I talk to them they still climb on me. It takes a village to raise kids. Always be open to let others help. Now I am not saying that means let everyone correct your child. You pick the village.

I just wish there was more parent involvement and parents really trying to understand their children.