Dang Women!

[SCHitemHard]

i just give her a yes maam... then when she walks off i ask for a sandwich

[CentralTex 254]

Man tbob , bang bang bang, that's hitting the nail on the head. I've heard one or all of those at a time

[H.Wilson]

I thought my wife was the only one that hates this website but I guess not

[TinyTexasCowgirl]

I'm gonna say it, y'all shoulda known I would chime in eventually but...

This is the first post on ETHD that I have ever taken offensively from my friends.

99% of the time I don't bitch. But I can say there are plenty of times that Maurice completely tunes me out when I'm trying to ask him something important. Maybe you guys should try listening every now and then, like you all just said, instead of tuning her out.

[PLP]

What women don't realize is that we don't care about most of the stuff y'all ask about. It's not that we don't care but it just doesnt matter to us. Paint the living room purple,wear the blue shoes, plant whatever flowers you want out front. The male mind doesn't see making a decision like that. We aren't programmed that way. And let's say that a man did act interested and offer his opinion or input, if it wasnt what she wanted to hear then it would only be a fight because women are way more decisive than men and already know the answer to the question they just asked. I'm not a woman so I can't say how Women see things. Maybe some of the ladies on the board would like a turn to shed some light on it for us.

[Hogsnatchers]

It all depends on the woman you go.home to. Mine has rarely ever gotten tudish with me unless she is actually sick.with a cold or stomach bug and she's genuinely uncomfortable in general. Her visitor never affects her mood or if it has she doesn't show it enough for me to notice. She tells me to go hunting most of the time when I'm debating on hunting or yard work/chores that I should be doing. If she's off work she feeds the dogs plays with her pet boar hog that's about 140lbs+  an usually wants to do a little bay pen work when I.get home. Sheay be one in a million but she is just about as good as it gets in my book.

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[PLP]

It all depends on the woman you go.home to. Mine has rarely ever gotten tudish with me unless she is actually sick.with a cold or stomach bug and she's genuinely uncomfortable in general. Her visitor never affects her mood or if it has she doesn't show it enough for me to notice. She tells me to go hunting most of the time when I'm debating on hunting or yard work/chores that I should be doing. If she's off work she feeds the dogs plays with her pet boar hog that's about 140lbs+  an usually wants to do a little bay pen work when I.get home. Sheay be one in a million but she is just about as good as it gets in my book.

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Sounds like you have a good one there. Congratulations. Now to prove my point. Would you care if she said she wanted to paint the living room purple.? Maybe it's not that you wouldn't care but you want her to have what she wants ?

[dub]

My wife has been givin me hell about the tires I just put on my truck. I told her I got a real good deal and could not get cheaper tires. So she looks online and found some cheaper tires. They were car tires they wanted to call truck tires. We went back and forth mostly it was her doing her woman fussing. I told her I was not going to drive a truck that looked like it a girly man would would drive. So she started in with the man's ego thing. I just told her she did not marry a woman but she could pretty soon if Obama and the Democrats get their way. That made her think. She has not admitted I am right and I know she never will.

Tiny if women would use fewer words maybe our ears could keep up The problem is that women don't complain about the real problem. They complain about everything else and we have to guess why. Now I will admit I tell my wife all this too. Guys are not perfect but when a guy gets mad he tells you why and there is no guessing. Even if nobody changes anything he will get over it but women don't. There are many differences between women and men. They make us like each other and hate each other. Women just get to tell men how screwed up they are any time a woman feels like it. If a man say anything other than how perfect a woman is then it is all out war.

Men do not understand most feelings. Men go blow money on things that turn out to be dumb. Men are not good listeners. Men are irritable for reasons a woman can't understand. Because the man will say exactly what is making hime mad. Men are not perfect. But there is no chance for us to complain because it would turn out bad. So Tiny don't get upset because where else can T-Bob vent without fearing for his life?

[Easttex91]

Dub just described so much of what I go through maybe we really are all the same. We have the stupidest fight ever every time we try deciding where to go eat Lol and I can't stand the whole I'm mad but I'm not gonna tell you why thing.

[Curcross1987]

My favorite part of those stupod fights is the silent treatment it's like thank god

[Easttex91]

My favorite part of those stupod fights is the silent treatment it's like thank god

Lmao not mine that's just her brain storming time you know your in trouble when the argument resumes

[Curcross1987]

When she starts the silent treatment tell her your going hunting ask her if she would like to go she says nothing u say ok babe love u c u latter and your gone call before you go home if she answers and is still mad you are getting bad signal if she is calm u go home some call it avoiding I call it living smart

[Lacy man]

My better half doesn't have an option. Hahaha totally not true but had to stretch the man card out there for a minute since she doesn't read this stuff very often. haha

[TinyTexasCowgirl]

Tiny if women would use fewer words maybe our ears could keep up. The problem is that women don't complain about the real problem. They complain about everything else and we have to guess why. Now I will admit I tell my wife all this too. Guys are not perfect but when a guy gets mad he tells you why and there is no guessing. Even if nobody changes anything he will get over it but women don't. There are many differences between women and men. They make us like each other and hate each other. Women just get to tell men how screwed up they are any time a woman feels like it. If a man say anything other than how perfect a woman is then it is all out war.

Now now now, never said Terry couldn't vent. I'm all for venting to friends, lord knows I do plenty of it. All I'm saying is that most of the time women want to know you care. Even if you don't, then just act like you do. For instance, if she wants to paint the dang living room purple ten instead of saying "I don't care"   try saying "that might be cool, I would have to see it to know for sure, but I think it would also look cool in....." and so forth. I might be a weird woman but Maurice and I have never had a full out screaming match, and prolly never will. If I'm mad then I'll tell him why, however, if my feelings get hurt then I might get a little witchy, simply because I don't wanna talk until I get calmed down because I don't want it to lead to a screaming match.

All my point was sometimes women feel like it don't matter what they are trying to say. To a woman, if you don't care if the living room is neon yellow, then it feels like you don't care about her likes/dislikes, wants/wishes, or her. Not saying its right, just that it's how it is.

[Hogsnatchers]

That's probably the beauty of it PLP, I don't think I would ever have to tell her I.don't like a purple living room or a pink living room or whatever other crazy color. It would drive her more batty than it would me. I'd tell her I don't care cause I really wouldn't. Shes different I'm tellin ya we have camo bedding in our bedroom that she picked out she went out of her way to find te matching camo curtains lol. She loves hunting and she likes fishing more than I do I believe. Most of the time the only arguments we have is because I went and she couldn't go and its not really an argument she just wanted to go.

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[marks]

I'm gonna say it, y'all shoulda known I would chime in eventually but...

This is the first post on ETHD that I have ever taken offensively from my friends.

99% of the time I don't bitch. But I can say there are plenty of times that Maurice completely tunes me out when I'm trying to ask him something important. Maybe you guys should try listening every now and then, like you all just said, instead of tuning her out.

I listen most of the time. I would say I listen as much or more than she does. I ask her often about something I've told her about previously and she doesn't remember it. I do listen though. But when an argument is obviously just an emotional blow up of hormones then I'm out of it. When it goes from a small disagreement about something stupid to everything I've ever done wrong then I'm not listening to it. I don't do that to her and she isn't gonna do it to me. She isn't like that most of the time but it does come around from time to time.  I also don't immediatly call my mother afterwards and tell her everything my wife has ever done wrong. I don't think that is fair to make her look bad to my family but that doesn't bother her to do it. My wife sounds kind of like you. 99% of the time everything is great. But the 1% is what I'm venting about. If she can vent to her mother then I can vent to a bunch of guys (and you) that I will never meet and in the grand scheme of my marraige (no offense) yall don't matter.  So I mean no offense to you or women in general. I love her to death 99% of the time .  Sorry if I've been offensive (but don't tell her I've apologized to a woman )

[reatj81]

Tiny thanks for female input.    Now my question how many hrs a day do I need to act like I care, when I don't give a $hit?    If I stop and listen for 20 min and try to listen & act like I give a ----- it turns in to 2-3hrs.   And only half of the living room would get painted before she lost interest and decided she didn't like purple or didn't like to paint.  Who knows what half would get painted top or bottom half, then I have to finish it.   I cannot think of one single project she has started and finished.

[T-Bob Parker]

Boy howdy you pretty well summed it up right there fella!

We can be 2 people in love and living life just fine and if we disagree I can respectfully hash out the disagreement in love, BUT like you said, if it's a hormone driven screaming fest, then consider yourself lucky I don't listen to you and chose to go do something else. If I was a stupider man, I'd engage the angry hormonal woman and end up putting her over ny knee like the duke in McClintock.

All that is said in jest obviously.

And Tiny, your second response weren't half bad, don't act like you don't know exactly what we fellas are whining about.

[TinyTexasCowgirl]

Guys, I'm fixin to tell y'all something that I have not, and never Planned on publicizing so y'all be very nice okay? I was diagnosed with Type 2 Bi polarism several years ago, and after we finally found the right medication, I have leveled quite nicely. However, before my meds, I was pretty horrible. But I can honestly say that my menstrual cycle has NOTHING to do with my mood swings. I do have them, don't get me wrong, but my mood tends to go from happy to "my favorite dog just got kilt" sad. I hardly ever have rages so I really don't know how to relate to that side of things.


I am not saying spend 4 hrs a day in deep conversation over wallpaper. I'm saying give her the courtesy to share pieces of her life that don't mean something to you. I share Maurice's wants and wishes just as much as he shares mine. That's all I'm saying. In my opinion, to many couples who are married are leading Seperate lives and that's not what marriage was intended to be. Yes, I have pieces of my life that Maurice does not give a d*mn about. But he still supports me in them, and does what I need or ask of him to show me that. I do my best to give him the same respect.

However, in y'all's defense, I do not and will not ever rehash old arguments and she shouldn't either. Once the sun has set, literally, the fight is over. Period. It's in the past. It's not fair to keep bringing it up. AND there is nothing wrong with talking to friends over things that bother you about your mate, as long as it is not done in a derrogrtory vindictive ugly fashion. For women, 99% of the time griping and crying to our mothers happens because they are the best mentor we can think of to help us understand and possibly remedy whatever problem we are having at the time.

[halfbreed]

tiny don't feel differant or bad about your situation . every-one knows that all women are bi-polar  lol j/k