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hogdogger98, for somebody who says not to listen to other peoples advise, u sure do like throwing ur advise around for him to follow. u think ur the only person on this site or in the world that has had marital issues? I been married 3 times nd im only 34. I don't put up with a mouthy woman and those that are described in the original post. the woman I got now, I have minute problems with her. like jimco said, life is short, live it the best u can, and if ur miserable, then u mite need to get rid of her or live like the other guy, 25 yrs of misery.
I listened to others advice and I know where it got me. I'm going to respectfully get out of this conversation. I really hope he gets things figured out. FYI I was miserable when I was 25 too but made it work and will make it work. Y'all have an awesome day I'm taking my family to the zoo. |
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
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Catch em, tie em, drag em out!
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had several wives , had them gripe and moan about dogs and chickens . so you want to make the marriage work and you get rid of the dogs and chickens to your buddies to hold on to for you , guess what she's still as miserable as ever and now so are you lol . not to make the ladies mad but women don't fall in love with whom a man is they fall in love with what they think they can turn that man into . been single now for 20 years and the last wife was a veterinary tech and new dang good and well who I was and what I lived for . just gotta do whatever YOU THINK is right and try to live with it . . an old man told me once that the best advice he could give me was to not take any advice from anybody . words I live by today , this is your life and your situation FIGURE IT OUT .
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
I ain't even married but X2 lol X3. Put God first and everything will work out. |
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woman are very simple creatures. If shes otherwise a good woman, I wouldn't let her go over this. I had a similar sitiation a few years back. I will give you this advice. the main job of a husband Biblicaly is to sanctify his wife. That means to make holy.
5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. If you are a believer in christ, think of how he deals with his children. always firm in his stance,never gives in when we are wrong( firm not angry),always looking out for our good, never selfish, supply's protection and provides for us emotionally and physically. He corrects us but with a purpose, never out of anger or desire to dominate. to put it simply I don't think you have to give in when your mate is clearly wrong but I would carefully examine the way you act towards her and if theirs a sore spot on your conscious, I would quickly change that behavior. A woman can change a man (maybe)! and a man can change his wife but only by steady firm wise steering of her over time. She has to know you love her above all else(thats the most important)! unfortunately for most women that means spending lots of time doing honey does and such. A woman loves for a man to work for her on her little projects and do little sweet chores and other things I don't care about it. If shes a good woman other wise I will practically garuntee you this is whats bothering her not the hunting.Little girls grow up dreaming of a man thats their very own and will do things for them no one else will. Example:My wife always wants me to build her furniture. If I don't do it she will after a period of time become disgruntled. I don 't have to do every project just enough to let her know I'm willing to give her apiece of myself and when I am fair with her with my time. I'm not her slave I get to hunt and she gets to be proud of her man. You will get nowhere with your wife if she starts losing respect for you.once it's gone shes gone more than likley. Most marriages that end in divorce could be saved If the folks involved would take a long hard look at themselves and be painfully honest with them self about what they really are. It hurts but will sure help in the long run. Long answer but I hope it helps.I guarantee you hunting isn't the problem you got underlying issues that need dealt with.
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Everything in life has to have a balance. Work, home life (family) and even recreation. Hog hunting can be an addiction. She may feel neglected. Spend a little time with her and then hunt. It's too hot to hunt much right now anyway.
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jagdtank
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a michael pearl sermon titled:only men. changed my marriage completely it's 6.95 and im pretty sure it's in their archives for free @ no greater joy.com
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JagdTank...you almost made me cry...nicely put...   |
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Training dogs is not about quantity, it's more about timing, the right situations, and proper guidance...After that it's up to the dog...
A hunting dog is born not made...
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another analogy is using the way christ relates to the curch. changing the parts where it speaks of christ. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That you might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
27 That you might present her to yourself a glorious wife, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that she should be holy and without blemish. If your wife is going to be the perfect wife to a large extent it's going to be because your wise leadership made her that way.
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I guess I got lucky. Been with my husband for going on 4 years now. Dogs were what actually brought us together, lol, so our world consists of our kids, our dogs, our reptiles, and hunting! It helps in a MAJOR way to have the similar passions. All too often I have seen couples in a constant state of dismay due to the fact that one half has one big hobby/passion that the other half completely despises. I've found myself scratching my head at times wondering how some of these couples got together to begin with, lol. Now I know we are all our own person....not saying that couples have to have the exact same interests to work out, but it at least helps a lot when the other half can at least TOLERATE their other halves biggest passions in life! Makes life so much easier.
OP since you seemed to be seeking advice (take it all with a grain of salt please, lol), maybe you could work up some kind of compromise with her? See if you can designate one night a week as a 'date night' with her where she gets to pick what y'all do. Believe me, we love that stuff! Then you can designate specific times for you to go hunt. Believe me, that one night a week that is her 'special' night can make a huge
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For everytime you go hunting you watch the kids for her. I take my kids with me so my wife can relax. I may not take them all but she is happy for some relief. Plus my kids love to get out and have some fun.
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"...A man who has nothing which he cares more about than he does about his personal safety is a miserable creature who has no chance at being free, unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself..." John Stuart Mill
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To many people get married before they know who they are and what they want. If u don't truly know yourself u can't possibly find the right person to compliment ur life and u theirs.
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To many people get married before they know who they are and what they want. If u don't truly know yourself u can't possibly find the right person to compliment ur life and u theirs.
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"Pedigree indicates what the animal should be. Conformation indicates what the animal appears to be. But PERFORMANCE indicates what the animal actually is."
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I guess I got lucky. Been with my husband for going on 4 years now. Dogs were what actually brought us together, lol, so our world consists of our kids, our dogs, our reptiles, and hunting! It helps in a MAJOR way to have the similar passions. All too often I have seen couples in a constant state of dismay due to the fact that one half has one big hobby/passion that the other half completely despises. I've found myself scratching my head at times wondering how some of these couples got together to begin with, lol. Now I know we are all our own person....not saying that couples have to have the exact same interests to work out, but it at least helps a lot when the other half can at least TOLERATE their other halves biggest passions in life! Makes life so much easier.
OP since you seemed to be seeking advice (take it all with a grain of salt please, lol), maybe you could work up some kind of compromise with her? See if you can designate one night a week as a 'date night' with her where she gets to pick what y'all do. Believe me, we love that stuff! Then you can designate specific times for you to go hunt. Believe me, that one night a week that is her 'special' night can make a huge
difference!
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Happiness is a empty dogbox
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Well hot damn, sound like I'll be that old lady with a bunch of hog dogs! Ain't nobody got time for that drama  |
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Just treat her like a thoroughbred and she will never be a Nag!!!!
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Just treat her like a thoroughbred and she will never be a Nag!!!!
I like that idea. Keep her busy in the kitchen n cleaning house all day n she will b tired to argue.  |
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Why should I trade one tyrant three thousand miles away for three thousand tyrants one mile away? An elected legislature can trample a man's rights as easily as a king can!
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im on my 3rd wife the first to acted kinda like that, so I culled them. I do what I want and she does the same, and she carries a feed bucket good to. life to short to fight and be unhappy.
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you have to give and take, but i will say this if you give in now on this later on down the road it will be something else she doesnt like, i was always told when you start dating someone dont take them everywhere you go or they will expect this all the time, and dont ever start doing something you dont want to continue like washing clothes if you ever start washing your own clothes even just one time they will want you to continue to do so, i havent been married long a few months but mine knows im going hunting just about every tuesday and thursday night and every saturday and sunday so she knows not to make us any plans when its hunting season. you only live one time you never know for how long so you need to try to enjoy the majority of it.
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
wisdom spoken here. in a relationship its not about you...thats for a single dude. its all about compromise and compassion. with out either you will be miserable. but I have had lots of women,relationships,whathave you, but my wife is my life partner. is she still a bitch. yes. would I give up something I enjoy. yes. so would she. were in it for the longhaul... from me.....who else. tapatalk |
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