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Just what the title says .. Someone tell me what I'm doing wrong .. She's always invited no matter what I work 40 plus she has everything she ask for but damn me if I go on a day off or go on a week night while she's sleeping anyways,,, why won't she just make this a thing that we do together not a thing that's gunna separate us
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IF YOUR SCARED GO TO CHURCH !
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jimco
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« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2013, 04:54:32 am » |
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If she acts like this now she ain't never going to change. Sounds like she's one of those wives that want's you
home stuck up her butt. If she doesn't want to go do things that you invite her to do then go do your own thing
without her. It goes both ways though. It's very, very, simple, Life is too short to be stuck with someone who
is making you miserable or who is miserable themselves. Are you upset cause she doesn't want to go or is she
upset cause she doesn't want you going? Your very young but you better get all this marriage stuff lined out
pretty quick or you gonna be miserable.
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"Pedigree indicates what the animal should be. Conformation indicates what the animal appears to be. But PERFORMANCE indicates what the animal actually is."
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« Reply #2 on: June 15, 2013, 05:22:00 am » |
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Ask her would she rather have u n the woods at night or n a Bar.
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I gotta pack'a pigs Bayed tight in'a Bryar patch!! -945 BOAR BUSTERS-
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Easttex91
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« Reply #3 on: June 15, 2013, 06:38:57 am » |
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Try to let her know your goin a few days ahead of time idk why but that seems to make all the difference.
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« Reply #4 on: June 15, 2013, 06:50:10 am » |
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Like stated above - would they rather have you in the woods or at a bar?
I told my chick that once and she never fussed about it again.
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If you cant hang with the big dogs STAY ON THE PORCH.
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charles
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« Reply #5 on: June 15, 2013, 06:51:01 am » |
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Even though u invite her n she does not accept. how often do u go? If ur popping smoke every available min ur off, then i could see her getn mad. As jimco said, she may just want u around as much as possible. I guess there aint nothing wrong with her wanting that. If its really an issue, weigh ur option. Its kind of a double edge sword though, u show her the door or let her control u. I was in the same boat, only with fishing n deer huntin. If there was a good chance i could catch a mess of fish or put a deer in freezer, i was on the lake or in the woods. My wife got poed bout it, we argued some but 6yrs later, still married. That goes for my voluntary globe hoping. If i had a chance go to iraq i volunteered, out of the army less than a yr n gone to afghanistan. The past 2 yrs hav been the longest iv been home consecutively since 03 so i guess my wifes use to it, but it has been said a couple times that she pack her stuff n n ill show her the door. We r still married  |
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Why should I trade one tyrant three thousand miles away for three thousand tyrants one mile away? An elected legislature can trample a man's rights as easily as a king can!
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« Reply #6 on: June 15, 2013, 07:33:39 am » |
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After 33yrs mine likes me gone to the woods or gone fishing lol
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Tim Riggins
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hogdogger98
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« Reply #7 on: June 15, 2013, 08:18:23 am » |
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
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Reuben
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« Reply #8 on: June 15, 2013, 08:22:40 am » |
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
10-4 on that...and communication and negotiation...find some common ground and try and reach an agreement... |
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Training dogs is not about quantity, it's more about timing, the right situations, and proper guidance...After that it's up to the dog...
A hunting dog is born not made...
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« Reply #9 on: June 15, 2013, 08:33:01 am » |
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Ask her would she rather have u n the woods at night or n a Bar.
That's what settled my argument lol chase a boar hog or a bar whore her choice |
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jimco
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
10-4 on that...and communication and negotiation...find some common ground and try and reach an agreement... I agree on the communication and negotiation, but I have a close friend who is absolutely miserable because as the original post said his wife has everything she's ever wanted but she pisses and moans when he wants to spend a little time by his self or a buddy fishing or hunting. She's been like that since they first married. Fast forward 25 years later and she's still like that. So yes, My advise remains, Life is too short to be miserable all them years or to live with a miserable wife. The situation will only get worst unless he demands change or one of the two hits the road. |
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"Pedigree indicates what the animal should be. Conformation indicates what the animal appears to be. But PERFORMANCE indicates what the animal actually is."
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family is number one. That goes both ways. You have to understand that everyone needs "me" time. She needs to understand the same thing. You can not hunt all the time and still keep the family happy. I use to always hunt and fish. I have had to slow down due to family. I am ok with that. My wife understands that I love to be outside hunting. She tells me that I need to go more then I ask what we have planned that weekend. Three parts to a relationship. You,her and the relationship.
It isnt going to get better on its own. Talk it out.
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There's a coon, nevermind, thats Buster.
"So I pawned my lacy off to my girlfriend. That should teach her to meet men off match.com"
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hogdogger98
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Your buddy has been married 25 years that's awesome good thing he didn't listen to other people's advice. My advise is never listen to advise from anyone other than God. You married her for better or worse.
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Reuben
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After just going through marriage issues. Don't be asking other people for advise. Other people will say I would do this or that they are not the ones married to your wife! Hog hunting is my passion but my wife is my life. This is the order your life needs to be in God,family,work and hog hunting. I know what I'm talking about!!
10-4 on that...and communication and negotiation...find some common ground and try and reach an agreement... I agree on the communication and negotiation, but I have a close friend who is absolutely miserable because as the original post said his wife has everything she's ever wanted but she pisses and moans when he wants to spend a little time by his self or a buddy fishing or hunting. She's been like that since they first married. Fast forward 25 years later and she's still like that. So yes, My advise remains, Life is too short to be miserable all them years or to live with a miserable wife. The situation will only get worst unless he demands change or one of the two hits the road. sounds like she is narrow minded and selfish...he should make the effort to help her change because you are right...life is too short to put up with that bull crap... |
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Training dogs is not about quantity, it's more about timing, the right situations, and proper guidance...After that it's up to the dog...
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Does she like to hog hunt? My wife doesn't. She thinks it stupid. Here's the problem with advice the people that are giving it only have your side of the story. Guys don't be saying negative things about his wife you don't know her or their situation. I have been through 9 months of hell on earth because I was stupid. I worked all the time and when I was not working I went hunting. My wife felt like I didn't like or love her anymore. I'm telling you it's not good to listen to others advice unless they are telling you to pray with your wife and fix whatever is wrong. If you don't want to fix it then that's fine too but remember like I said you married her for better or worse. Here's a question does hog hunting make you happy enough to lose your wife?
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jimco
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He came on here looking for answers. I answered based on the info he gave and I looked at his profile and seen he was only 25 yrs.old. If he doesn't like the way things are going, or she doesn't like the way things are going, they better get it lined out quick because I'm gonna say it one LAST time, life is too short to spend it being miserable or spend it with a miserable person.
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"Pedigree indicates what the animal should be. Conformation indicates what the animal appears to be. But PERFORMANCE indicates what the animal actually is."
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Your buddy has been married 25 years that's awesome good thing he didn't listen to other people's advice. My advise is never listen to advise from anyone other than God. You married her for better or worse.
No it's not awesome. All his friends and family gave him advise and he chose to ignore it. His life consist of going to work, coming home, and being stuck up her butt. He admitted to me he is miserable. so no it is NOT awesome, It is quite sad. And far as not listening to advise from anyone other than God, well I respectfully disagree with that. There is nothing wrong with taking advise from family and friends. |
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"Pedigree indicates what the animal should be. Conformation indicates what the animal appears to be. But PERFORMANCE indicates what the animal actually is."
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He came on here looking for answers. I answered based on the info he gave and I looked at his profile and seen he was only 25 yrs.old. If he doesn't like the way things are going, or she doesn't like the way things are going, they better get it lined out quick because I'm gonna say it one LAST time, life is too short to spend it being miserable or spend it with a miserable person.
I understand he's 25, I understand he came here looking for advise. I am 33 and been married going 16 years. I agree that he needs to get things lined out and life is to short. I also know for a fact that listening to others about his issues is NOT a good idea! You gave your advise and I'm giving mine. I am still trying to fix my marriage because I was stupid. I just hate for anyone to make my mistakes. That's all I'm saying. |
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charles
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hogdogger98, for somebody who says not to listen to other peoples advise, u sure do like throwing ur advise around for him to follow. u think ur the only person on this site or in the world that has had marital issues? I been married 3 times nd im only 34. I don't put up with a mouthy woman and those that are described in the original post. the woman I got now, I have minute problems with her. like jimco said, life is short, live it the best u can, and if ur miserable, then u mite need to get rid of her or live like the other guy, 25 yrs of misery.
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Why should I trade one tyrant three thousand miles away for three thousand tyrants one mile away? An elected legislature can trample a man's rights as easily as a king can!
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Your buddy has been married 25 years that's awesome good thing he didn't listen to other people's advice. My advise is never listen to advise from anyone other than God. You married her for better or worse.
No it's not awesome. All his friends and family gave him advise and he chose to ignore it. His life consist of going to work, coming home, and being stuck up her butt. He admitted to me he is miserable. so no it is NOT awesome, It is quite sad. And far as not listening to advise from anyone other than God, well I respectfully disagree with that. There is nothing wrong with taking advise from family and friends. The key is he made his bed and he's still married marriage vows say for better or worse right? |
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